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“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly”- Sam Keen
The beginning of a relationship is full of romance, passion, and affection. You play and laugh together, and spend time figuring out each other. As the relationship progress, cracks start to form and you begin to question “Am I with the right one?” You argue, ignore, withhold affection, say hurtful comments, shout, and storm away. But there is hope. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable you allow for a deeper exploration of yourself, your partner, and the relationship.
“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.” - Brené Brown
Often in relationships, when you allow yourself to be vulnerable, old wounds from earlier relationships start to show up. You experience disappointment, shame and guilt as you question if you are good enough and/or you begin to blame your partner for not meeting your needs. But to move towards relational healing you have to move past these reactions. Therapy is the gift to healing relational and attachment wounds.
When you come to see me, I provide a safe space for you and your partner to discover what you really want and need from a loving relationship, and address how you and your partner may be getting in the way of having your needs and desires met. My hope is that through this process, you and your partner will better understand each other’s struggles, have more meaningful conversations, and strengthen the connection between each of you instead of alienate.